When to start dating after a divorce

If you’re divorced, or have ended a long-term relationship, well-meaning relatives and friends may encourage you to start dating again soon.But how will you know when you're ready for a new relationship?Like Jennifer, she needs some advice but is concerned about how she can make the transition into dating easy on her children. He'd like to date again, and some of his friends say he should start looking for a woman now — after all, he's getting divorced soon.But John knows better because he's still married, and dating now would go against God's desires.“This wildly varies from person to person,” says Judith Sills, Ph D, a Philadelphia-based psychologist and author of Getting Naked Again: Dating, Romance, Sex, and Love When You've Been Divorced, Widowed, Dumped, or Distracted.

"When Madaline is out of the house I want to date, but I don't know how." Samantha has been divorced for only a year, but would like to start dating again even though her two boys are still in elementary school.

“It helped, because I got to see what 'normal' looked like,” Roché says.

“I also saw that my ex wasn't the only guy who would want to be with me.

Instead, "it's usually clear when you're not ready," says Susan Pease Gadoua, a therapist and author of .

That is, "when the very idea turns you off." But you can decide that you're ready to at least try.