Our attitude to dating is not so much a matter of church policy but a matter of family government.Laying a solid foundation in this area is a parental reponsibility, but the church has a responsibility to hold the family accountable to the Word of God.Of course, this doesn't mean all courtships end in marriage, as reality dictates that some things simply aren't meant to be. The man initiates the friendship, the "talk", and even approaches his and the woman's parents for their blessing.It just means that people enter into courtships for the purpose of a serious, future-focused relationship. If you're a woman eager to let the man take the lead, by all means, let him! If you're tired of dating, have you considered courtship?It's difficult to define, but the essential difference between courting and dating lies in their purposes: people date for various reasons, but people court And despite its old-fashioned connotations, courting is still widely practiced today — especially in religious circles.It often involves friendship, discussing each individuals future plans, knowing the parents if theyre alive, and praying privately for Gods will in the matter. We never kissed or even held hands until we were engaged. Weve been married for almost 18 years, and are still in love.After deciding it is Gods will to get married, the couple prays together and then go to their parents to seek their blessings and finally to the pastor to seek his approval. Im under forty, and my wife, Sonia, and I proved that courtship could work in this modern age. JIve been pastoring for almost two decades, and Ive noticed that the number one reason people are led away from God is because they get involved in a relationship which is not honoring God. Satan knows this, so he tries to replace your relationship with God with a wrong relationship with another.
The Bible tells us that all that has to do with love can and must be tested.
The test is Rom - "true love does no harm to a neighbour and fulfills the law." So we must find a lawful way for our young people to fall in love and prepare for marriage. It is an established cultural norm to be followed without further question.
Most parents continue to allow dating because it is the way that they did things in their day, and they believe that they survived.
Let me say first of all: Dont get hung up on terms.
It is possible to use the word date but not necessarily have the same understanding as my definition. If you say you date but dont do what I define dating as being, then I feel you are practicing courting, although you might still use the term dating. It sounds so much better, but in reality, dating and mating are sometimes the same.