Dating like me

So let’s assume that I’m right and you like him and you’d like it if he wants you back.I would even bet that you’re probably hoping I write back that he does like you. At the heart of all of these games and guesses is doubt.Often, I start with this disclaimer: “Anyone who has ever given you relationship advice is full of bullshit.” It’s true.Human beings are invariably different, each and every one of ’em, and driven by thousands of experiences, beliefs, and behaviors.“You have no idea what it’s like to be called beautiful all the time,” a good friend once remarked.“It’s like your biggest accomplishment is something you didn’t do yourself.” She wasn’t being rude; I’m not beautiful in the traditional sense.But if he clearly treats you differently to his other girl friends, then it's a strong sign he likes you3. A massive sign that he loves you is when he goes out of his way to do something for you, but he doesn't do the same for other friends/co-workers/buddies.

My suggestion is rather than trying to “solve the mystery”, assume that things are the way you want them to be. Worrying what the other person thinks usually just creeps them out…

My eye color isn’t interesting, and my hair is always feral.

I’m not ugly, but I don’t have much beauty privilege (and make no mistake, beauty privilege yields tangible rewards). “I don’t have to.” [Go ahead, ladies, make the first move.

I need time to breathe when I’m angry or else I lash out like a heavy-footed she-beast.

In my relationship (but maybe not yours), the best medicine in the world for intra-marital conflict is for me to be by myself, preferably with some sleep time in there somewhere. In fact, I’ve uniformly rejected every piece of relationship advice that I’ve ever been given -- thank GOODNESS, because relationship advice is fucking dumb.