And yes, my fiancé is a year older, so nix that idea. That’s the key ingredient for pulling my heart-strings.Yes, I’m sure chemistry of some sort develops over time, but I’m pretty convinced that the YES-VIBE is what kept me connected to my previous wife even when things were going South.
If the spark is not there, I think monogamy might be a bit more of a challenge. Don’t give your amazing to too many people, it can result in a lot of confusion for both you and your partners. Sex without that connection is more like masturbation.
If logic always governed, a lot people would probably prefer to go the single parent route after suffering through a crap marriage ending in a nasty divorce.
But for those divorced parents who opt to rejoin the ranks of adults searching for love and companionship, having a child can be an additional hurdle in an already delicate dance.
Having dated a divorced guy, I can speak from experience of what to do and the mistakes to avoid if you do decide to go down this path with a divorced guy, especially if they have kids.
DATING MISTAKE 1: I ignored the signs of his opinion on kids.