But as logical and tempting as it seems, Camerin learned the dangers of dating a non-Christian.
Here’s a woman of God in Steve’s arms, and he could care less. How could Amber consider marriage with someone who doesn’t share her beliefs? And because the non-Christian dating scene tends to be much more open and aggressive, those nonbeliever singles are standing by with invitations to dinner ready.
The short answer is "no." However, it is good to examine the scripture behind the answer to understand it more completely, including why such a marriage is a bad idea.
The usual answer given the believer is from 2 Corinthians: Do not be bound together [unequally yoked] with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?
Q: Is it okay to date someone if they are not Catholic?
A: We get this question a lot – and unfortunately there’s not a definite yes or no answer.
As Lisa Cotter explains in her blog about “evangedating,” “sometimes God uses human love and attraction to bring people closer to Him.” Check out her article to read about scenarios where dating a non-Christian could be where God is (or isn’t) leading you.
And, in a way, it may even be logical with all the confusion and droughts we’ve talked about.
In "The Un Guide to Dating," a he said/she said look at adult dating relationships, authors Camerin Courtney and Todd Hertz discuss why the temptations – and dangers – of dating non-Christians are very real. Todd: My friend Steve isn’t a Christian, so I was surprised when he introduced me to his new girlfriend: a committed member of my church. There, with members of my Bible study, a friend and I quizzed our fellow member Emily about the guy she was spending more and more time with. Emily assured us he was a “really great guy” and that we needn’t worry since they were “just friends.” Well, three months later these “just friends” were dating.
As their relationship progressed, I felt twinges of jealousy over Amber. Nor was I singing the eighties pop hit “Jessie’s Girl.” But I did think it was unfair: Here I am, a devoted Christian guy, searching for a committed Christian woman . Jake, the Non-Christian Camerin: Some of my first real conversations about the dangers of dating a non-Christian took place in college over Chocolate Chipper Sundaes at Perkins.
ANONYMOUS WRITES: A friend of mine has been seeing a young man over the summer with her parents present.
He meets all of her standards that she wants in a future husband except for one thing: They don’t know if he’s saved; or if he is, he’s a burnt Christian.